Seeking for help is usually the first step o trying to salvage ones marriage for anyone who is trying to save their marriage. This is because, after trying to sort out issues on your own, having a new person look at your situation and give you insight on the same will go a long ways in shedding light on your issue. In such a situation, it is, therefore, important to get a professional counselor.
The counselor’s qualification is an important thing you need to look out for. In order for one to be called a professional counselor, there are various qualifications different places require them to have. To keep your mind at ease, do not hesitate to ask for their qualifications as professional counselors when in doubt.
The other thing you need to consider despite their qualification is their years of experience. A counselor who has been practicing for longer is often better equipped to handle your marital issues. Most new counselors mostly have theoretical solutions to your issues and may not help address your problems well.
The other choice you need to make as a couple is to go to a counselor that is unbiased. this being said, do not choose a counselor that has ties to your or is a friend to either one of you as their solutions will most likely favor one of you. It is best to go to a counselor whose solutions are not tied to their emotions towards you.
It is important to choose a couneslor who has similar beliefs like you two. Having a counselor who does not subscribe to your beliefs or lifestyle maybe hard as they may give solutions that are againts your union. Find out ht their opinion is on issues like divorce, same sex marriage, polygamy, and polyandry are before you start on your counseling sessions. These will go a long way in determining how the counselor reacts to the issues you two have.
In order for any counseling session to be successful, there needs to be confidence established. A couple can only open up and talk about their issues if they trust the counselor. Going for a counselor you two are not free with will not get you anywhere.
You also need to factor in is the cost of counseling. Since different counselors charge differently, figure out the counselor you can afford. Ensure you come up with a payment plan as well so this may turn into another issue.
Most counselors work during normal office hours, and you two have to work out when you can use them. If you are using during the day, you can find a counselor that has sessions past normal working hours. A counseling session is only effective if the two of you are available.